48 Laws of Power - Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
The law rests on a simple truth about human nature. We value what we cannot always have. When you are constantly available always present, always responding, always within reach you train the people around you to take you for granted. You become furniture. You become background. Familiarity does not breed contempt in the dramatic sense. It breeds something quieter and more dangerous and indifference. But when you withdraw, something shifts. People begin to notice the space you have left. They talk about you in your absence. They remember your contributions more clearly. They begin to wonder what you are doing, where you are, what you are thinking. And wonder, as any king knows, is the first cousin of desire. The person who is always present gives others too much information, too much access, too much familiarity. They become predict...